After a ton of comments privately about using Homebrew instead of Macports I decided to try it out. I did a clean install on my Macbook Pro and here are the steps I followed.
1. Install Xcode 4.6 and command line tools.
2. Open terminal and run command:
\curl -L https://get.rvm.io | bash -s head --ruby
3. Enjoy ruby.
That is much easier. So much easier! Apparently rvm head will install Homebrew, all the required dependencies, and build a working copy of ruby. The #rvm channel on freenode helped me with this. I am now upset at the time I wasted trying to get the other way to work.
This may be old news to some but I wanted to throw this up because I spent a ton of time Googling and did not find a good solution, I hope this helps others. Now I am going to build the ultimate post reinstall script for setting up OSX for security people!